Wedding Traditions – Where Did They Come From?

 

If you have ever attended a wedding, then you have seen wedding traditions.  You probably never thought about why does the bride where white? Why does the groom have his own cake? Bury the Bourbon, what for? Why do the bride and groom cut the cake at the reception? So let’s take a look at some of most popular wedding traditions.  Let me help you understand where they came from and why we do them.

Bridesmaids – where did they originate from?

Have you ever been curious as to why we ask our friends to wear matching dresses and help the bride get ready for her big day? Originally bridesmaids did not wear colored gowns that would help the bride stand out.  Bridesmaids originally wore gowns that were very similar to the bride.  This was to confuse her exes and outsmart the evil spirits.  By wearing a gown similar to the bride, the evil spirits would not know who was actually getting married.

In early Roman era, it was the bridesmaids’ duty to surround the bride in a protective shield as they walked into the grooms village. The maids were dressed similar to the bride and if someone was to try to harm the bride, it was the maids’ duty to protect the bride at all costs! Maybe even with their life. Aren’t you glad that today, you just have to carry a bouquet and smile – not fight off evil or exes?

The Wedding Cake – Ring Cake Push– Why?

In the past it was a tradition for the groom to take a bite of bread after the ceremony.  Then it was also tradition for the groom to crumble the bread over the brides head for good luck.  Then the guests would surround the bride and try to collect some of the crumbs to get some of the good luck from the bride and groom.

Later the tradition changed to the Ring Cake Push.  What is the cake push you might ask?  Well, I am going to be honest, I had no idea about this tradition – however, it does lead to why we eat cake.  The cake push is where the bride push pieces of her wedding cake through her new wedding ring and hand it out to the guests.  The guests do not eat this, they take it home, place it under their pillow and hope that they will have good luck.  Now today, we just get to enjoy eating some yummy cake at the reception!

Best Man at Weddings - Where did the Tradition Come From

The Best Man

Originally the term “Best” Man did not refer to the grooms best friend, brothers, or comrades. The “Best” was added to the title of the man that was the strongest and most capable of being able to use a sword or weapon to fight off enemies and rival attackers during the ceremony. The “Best” man was also responsible to keep the bride from running away before the ceremony, making sure she didn’t escape and even kidnapping her at times.

Luckily today the honor of “Best” man is a title that goes along with planning the bachelor party, keeping the groom calm, making sure all the groomsmen are present and dressed correctly.  He will also be the one that will need to remember the rings and give a great toast at the reception.  Now, I am sure that the “Best” man is relieved that they do not have to do any of the hard stuff like the “Best” men of the past.

White Dress – Why does the Bride Where White?

The color white is the purest of all colors.  White is serene and calming that symbolizes new beginnings.  A white wedding dress is meant to represent purity, meaning that the bride is innocent and pure.  However, did you know that the originally wedding dresses were not white… they were gold or blue or even red. Dark Blue and Black were also worn a lot as these were the colors of the best dresses that the bride might own if she could not afford to purchase a new dress for the wedding.  White wedding dresses were worn in history; however, having a white wedding dress meant that you were wealthy or royal.

The tradition of wearing a white wedding dress caught on after Queen Victoria around 1840 wore it to get married. After that the white wedding dress was worn by brides to represent their purity and innocence.  Today, Brides are can wear whatever color they choose, but the tradition of the white wedding gown is still very prevalent and embraced by brides everywhere.

“Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed and Something Blue” –

This tradition started back in the Victorian era, to bring good fortune to the bride, especially when they were all worn together during the ceremony. The “something old” was worn to connect the bride to her past, “something new” was to signify the start of a new family and life.  “Something borrowed” is to something that would be taken into the new marriage, to bring the new happy couple good luck and good fortune. And then we have the “something blue” represents faithfulness and loyalty to the new union of lives.

There is an often forgotten line that comes at the end of the poem – “sixpence in my shoe” – So what is “sixpence” you might ask, “sixpence” was a former British monetary unit that was equal to six pennies. The “sixpence in the bride’s shoe” was given to her by her father to represent her with good luck just before she walked down the aisle, for extra luck, the coin was from the year that the bride was born.

Why are Wedding Veils used - What's the Tradition behind them?

Bridal Bouquet

In Ancient Greek times, the brides would carry cluster of herbs and spices.  The herbs and clusters were used to ward off evil spirits. That bundle of herbs and spices was believed to have magical powers that not only warded off evil spirits, but was also to bring the new couple good luck. The bouquet of herbs and spices transitioned to aromatic bouquets of beautiful flowers.

The Veil

The Veil originated in Ancient Greece and Rome and was used to keep the bride from receiving the “Evil Eye” from a family member that was not overly thrilled with the marriage.  It was later used to confuse evil spirits and even the devil from knowing who was getting married.  As some countries entered the time of “arranged marriages” the veil was used to mask the bride before the ceremony and then she could be “unveiled” to her new husband. Today, thankfully the veil is an accessory that some brides chose to wear and others chose not to. 

Saving the Top Layer of the Cake

 

Did you know that saving the top layer of your wedding cake was not originally started for you to be able to revisit your wedding a year later on your anniversary? This longstanding tradition actually is related to the rhyme that you might all be familiar with from childhood – “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage”. In the past it was customary for the newlyweds to announce that they were expecting a baby by their first anniversary. The top layer of the wedding cake was then used as a celebratory cake announcing the impending arrival of the baby.

 

 

And Finally, the Wedding Rings

The very first documentation of wedding rings date all the way back to the Ancient Egyptians.  The Ancient Egyptians exchanged braided reeds and hemp, then they placed them on the fourth finger of the left hand as they believed that there was a “vein of love” that ran from this finger directly to the heart.

In Ancient Rome and Greece, the ring symbolized that the bride now belonged to someone, and the ring was a dowry for the purchase of the bride.  Thankfully, today, the ring symbolizes the never ending circle of love.  As a ring has no beginning and no end, and the love that you have for your partner also has no ending.

So, there you have some of the wedding traditions that we still use today in one way or another. There are many more traditions that we will be discussing at some point, so look forward to learning more about the wedding traditions and why we have them!

Written by Tracee Storie

 

 

2022 Wedding Trends

It is the week of LOVE in February, Valentine’s Day Week.  Yes, I said week!  With Valentine’s Day on a Monday, I think that we need to share and celebrate love all week long…. So how about some 2022 Wedding Trends!

The past two years have been a little unusual not only in the wedding industry but all around the world.    This year, 2022, is projected to break the record (previously held by 1984) of the most weddings held in one year.  With that being said – I believe that we are going to see an EXPLOSION of weddings! So, what kinds of trends are we going to see this monumental wedding year?

 

 

Bridal Color Palette – BRIGHT, BOLD and BEAUTIFUL colors are going to lead the way this year.  In years past we have seen more muted color palettes that included mauve, sage and slate.  This year the color palettes will be warm, earth tones, vibrant colors and even some mismatched colors combinations to add to the celebration of the day.  Think electric blue, emerald green and even pink-purple to be headliners for the bridesmaids.  Also, think about wildflowers, I believe that the colors that we see in nature are going to lend to the colors that we are going to see in the bridal world. I still believe that we will see a lot of neutrals (ivory, cream and beige) this year, however, I feel like they are going to be taking a backburner. Blue will most likely lead the way and we will see a lot of green.  Blue represents the sky and the sea and is associated with open spaces, freedom, intuition, imagination and inspiration.  Green symbolizes new hope, balance and new life – all great symbols to have in your wedding palette.

 

Entertainment – Everyone is ready to PARTY!  Entertainment is going to be a big key factor this year.  Since we have all been locked away from each other for the past 2 years, it is now time to PARTY!  I believe that we will see a trend of live music and a lot more choreographed first dances.  Photo booths, sparklers, balloons and more will be making its way into the receptions and will leave a fun and lasting impression for your guests.

 

Weekday Weddings – The couples of 2020 had to postpone their weddings. Some couples in 2021 also had to postpone their weddings. However, people did not stop getting engaged.  With so many engaged couples, weekend weddings are very hard to come by. Many venues, photographers and even planners are completely booked for 2022 weekend weddings, so I believe that we will see a movement to weekday weddings. Weekday weddings have their pros and cons.  One positive is that a weekday wedding is more budget friendly but on the flip side, a weekday wedding may be inconvenient to guests.

 

Intimate Weddings/Micro Weddings – Intimate weddings are doing to be just that, a private and intimate affair. They are going to be smaller and with only the people that you truly know and love in attendance. Guest list will be curated and likely under 75.  This will allow couples to stretch their budget in different ways.  They will have the freedom to spend more on specialty vendors instead of having a pricey food and beverage bill.

 

 

Groom Color Palette – Let’s not forget about the new looks and colors that we are going to see this year when it comes to the groom wedding attire.  Playing it safe with a classic black suit or tuxedo is great, but why not let the groom’s personality shine on his special day as well.  I believe that we will see more color in the groom attire.  The groom and groomsmen will want to coordinate with the bridal party, but they will want to make a statement as well.  There are so many options today for the men’s attire.  I believe that men will also have bold colors – from velvet green jackets to cobalt blue suits – the men are going to step up their wedding game this year.

 

2022 Wedding Trends

 

Destination Weddings – With the smaller guest count, Destination Weddings are growing.  Let’s be honest, we have all been isolated for so long and would love to see something other than our own backyard.  A Destination Wedding allows the couple and their guest to celebrate marriage and have a vacation all at the same time.  Also, “Destination” does not mean that you have to travel 500 miles away, you can simply have your “destination” wedding in a nearby town.  These types of weddings also give couples the option of have a “multi-day experience”.  Instead of your wedding day, it could now be your wedding weekend.  Spread events out over a couple of days, and with the guest list smaller, you will make lasting memories with those that you hold near and dear to your heart.

If this pandemic has taught us anything, it is that we love who we love, want to celebrate with our loved ones and how to be creative when planning a special day.  2022 will be a year of growth, change and amazing celebrations!

 

How to Have a Low Cost Wedding in Missouri

How to Have a Low-Cost Wedding in Missouri

 

The average wedding and reception in 2020 cost right around $15,000. This is lower than the average for the past 5 years at $18,000 (pre-COVID) according to the Wedding Report.  The average household income in Missouri is $55,500.  That would mean that the average couple would be spending over 27% of their income on their wedding. The dreams of a beautiful, unforgettable wedding are sometimes not within the financial means for the couple.  So, how can you get everything you dreamed of without causing a financial strain?

The first step is to take a serious look at all of the expenses involved with a wedding.  Then find a realistic, frugal way to cut back on the expense without altering your dream for the perfect wedding.

Below you will find frugal (not cheap) ways to keep your wedding on a budget and not cause a financial strain on yourself.

Start Planning Early – The more time you have to plan your wedding, the better equipped you will be to know prices up front, and be able to compare without feeling pressured to purchase.

Trim down that guest list – Do you really need over 300 people at your wedding?  Make your wedding a small intimate affair.  Try to keep your guest list under 75 people.  This will save you money everywhere.

How to Plan a Low-Cost Wedding in Missouri

 

Wedding Gown – The average wedding gown will cost around $1600.  Plus that cost does NOT include alterations that will need to be done to the gown.  So, do your research…first decide what type of gown you want.  Then go to the boutiques, try on different shapes and styles. Make sure to shop around, one store might have the same dress for a fraction of the cost.  Also, ask about buying off the rack discounts.  Some retailers will sell a dress off the rack for a lower price because they do not have to order the gown in for you.  Also, you could look altering a gown that a family member or friend has.  That could be your something borrowed!

Another great option is to come to our July 24, 2022 RUN For the Dress.  This is a one day only event where you can select off the rack from HUNDREDS of dresses – all NEW Designer dresses.  It is the BIGGEST and BEST NEW Designer Bridal Gown Sale in the Midwest.  You don’t actually “RUN” but you do want to get there early!  Our Run for the Dress event is like a Mini Pop Up Bridal Shop with many different, local bridal shops all together, hundreds of dresses, dressing rooms and mirrors.  Not only dresses but lots of accessories too – jewelry, belts, flower girl dresses, and other special touches.

Wedding Help instead of Wedding Gift –Make a list of things that you want a PROFESSIONAL to have control of, like photography.  Photography is so very important because it is the ONE THING that you will have after the wedding…forever!   Please don’t be one of those brides who after their wedding, tell me they are sorry they didn’t hire a professional photographer.    Help can be in the form of decorating your venue, helping make DIY floral arrangements and table centerpieces.

Cake and/Or  Dessert – The average cost for a simple 3 – Tier Wedding cake starts at $300.  That cake will only feed about 65 people.  If you definitely want to have the traditional wedding cake, look at purchasing it from your local grocery store instead of a Cake Designer.  This can save you a lot of money.  Or how can you have an amazing dessert table, without blowing your budget?  The answer is simple:  Ask for dessert donation.  Your relatives and friends would be happy to help create a dessert table with their homemade desserts.

Another option is to buy a FAKE Cake for display, then serve the sheet cake in the back kitchen.  Just check out “Fake Cakes” on Etsy.

Dessert Suggestions for a Low Cost Wedding in Missouri

 

Venue – According to WeddingWire, the average cost for a venue in Missouri is $6000. With that in mind, try thinking of something different for your wedding day.  A public park is the perfect place to look into for your wedding.  Contact your local Park and Recreation offices to see what they have to offer.  Send us an email (events@bridestlouis.com) and we will send you our compiled list of low-cost venues. 

Minimal Flowers – On average $1,500 is spent on Wedding Flowers.  That is a lot of money!  So try keeping your flowers simple!  Small bouquets, use greenery, use plants for simple arrangements and if you want beautiful, colorful flowers – think about using wildflowers.  Also, to keep the cost down, make sure you know what flowers are in season and only use those flowers – it can cost a lot to buy flowers that are not in season during your wedding.

BYOB – A wedding bartender typically cost $30 per hour, and that does NOT include the cost of the alcohol.  Make sure to check with your venue, but purchasing the alcohol yourself and having a friend or family member tend the bar can save you over $1000.  Again, check with your venue to see if this is a viable option.

BYOB to save money on your wedding

 

 

So, when you are planning the most important and exciting day – keep these simple tips in mind and you will be able to have a dream wedding at a frugal price.

 

Beware of these 5 Major Budget Busters!

Having a wedding isn’t as simple as saying “I do” — and it can be expensive.  The average cost of a wedding in 2020 was over $20,000.  Figures are still out for 2021, but probably very close to that amount as well.

Having a Wedding Budget is critical to having a wedding without stress.  And even with a budget, these budget busters could happen if you are not careful!

  1. Exclusive Venues

While recommended vendors are great, having exclusive vendors is much different. This will lock you into their prices, services, and policies. If you find a venue with exclusive agreements, make sure you have pricing from all those vendors before signing your venue contract.

 

  1. Venues without Amenities

The venue that is just a building — maybe it has bathrooms (let’s hope) and a “caterer kitchen” (meaning sink, water, and refrigeration). The price is right, so you think you’ve scored. Take a breath — then sprint to your nearest rental service. and get estimates on everything else. Don’t let rentals be a budget buster just because you thought the venue was a good deal.

 

  1. The Outdoors

The everlasting trend of Midwest weddings! You throw up a white tent and invite your closest 100 friends and family. It won’t be more than a few grand, right? Wrong! You also need bathrooms, power generators, outdoor lighting, parking, parking lighting, transportation to and from parking, rain plan items, catering tent and equipment, ice and ice trailer, fans or A/C or heat, bug spray, landscaping — and that’s just naming the essential items.

 

  1. Unvoiced Parent Opinions

This is why you should include contributors in budget talks. At that meeting, encourage everyone to voice their full, specific opinions. Real-life story: A bride’s dad said steak and decent wine were a must. We got it accounted and budgeted for. Fast-forward a few months to the catering tasting. Dad ended up wanting filets and table service for everyone. As you can imagine, the price of a filet times 350 guests was much different than standard wedding steak. The budget was busted, and guess who it fell back on? The bride. And she ended up having to cut things she really wanted because of it.

 

  1. An Untracked Budget

Track every single thing that you and anyone else spends. If you don’t, you will end up going crazy in one of two ways. The first is when you go crazy saying, “I’m spending like a crazy person!” and think you’ve overspent — because when else in your life are you dropping $1,000 deposit checks every other day? The second is when you go crazy saying, “Everything is going to be fine!” and start rattling off those $1,000 checks like nothing. Then you go to add everything up and realize you busted your budget. Then you have to cut things like gifts to your wedding party, alterations, and even hair and makeup

 

Selecting Your Wedding Date in 2022

SELECTING YOUR WEDDING DATE IN 2022

The joy of being engaged is an excitement like no other, but it can also be overwhelming, thinking about how to plan the wedding of your dreams.

One of the first questions you will be asked is, “Have you set a date?” The date you choose is key to your entire event. If you are on a tight budget there are some dates you will want to avoid and if you choose a date around a Holiday, you might find your favorite vendor already booked. 

To save money, go for a Friday or Sunday wedding as many vendors will offer a reduced price on those days.  We also listed the 3-day weekends – these are great for guests who need to travel.  In our area, October is a very busy wedding month. If fact, it ranks up with June as one of the most popular wedding months.

 

PLANNING THOSE 2022 WEDDINGS – DATES TO CONSIDER

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JANUARY THROUGH MARCH

January 1st – It’s a Saturday this year. (Some of you might want to opt for a 12/31/21 end of year wedding. If so, you can file your taxes as a “married” couple which might save your money!”) Many companies will be celebrating a long weekend, so this could be a great time to say those “vows” especially if you have out of town guests invited.

January 8th & 9th – (Saturday & Sunday) Okay – it’s not a unique wedding date, but it is an important date to mark on your calendar. It’s our HUGE, 2 DAY BRIDAL EXPO. This is your opportunity to plan your entire wedding in one weekend. Look for more information on our web site at BrideStLouis.com. Buy your tickets early so you don’t miss out on some of the great, FREE, seminars that occur at this event. And with your ticket you enter our $10,000 Wedding Giveaway!  How great would it be to win $10,000 in wedding services and products!

January 16th – Sunday – Our Second Bridal & Wedding EXPO of the Year in COLUMBIA, MISSOURI. If you missed last week’s event, you still have a chance to meet a lot of vendors, see a great fashion runway show, and get your $10,000 Wedding Giveaway entry.

January 17th – It’s a Monday. A 3-day weekend for many to celebrate Martin Luther King’s Day.

February 2nd – A Novelty Date (Tuesday) 2/22/22

February 11th – Lincoln’s Day is a State Holiday in Illinois. It’s a Friday. (Could be a 3 Day Weekend for some.)

February 13th – Super Bowl – If your guy is a sports fan – forget about this date!

February 14th – Valentine’s Day (Monday). Florists will be super busy, and you might pay more for those red roses.

February 21th – President’s Day (Monday)

February 27th – Sunday – Bride St. Louis’ Bridal Show at The Christy Banquet Center

March 1st – Marti Gras (Tuesday)

March 2nd – Ash Wednesday (Catholics usually don’t marry in Lent.)

March 13th – Sunday – Daylight savings time begins. (Longer Days)

March 17th – For You Irish Lads. (It’s a Thursday. Wear those kilts!)

March 20th – First Day of Spring – Vernal equinox. (Sunday)

 

APRIL, MAY, JUNE

April 3rd – Sunday – Ramadan begins

April 15nd – Good Friday

April 16th – Saturday – Passover

April 17th – Easter Sunday. Most couples avoid that date. Many churches will not perform weddings the Saturday before Easter – April 16rd

May 1st – It’s Bride St. Louis’ SPRING Bridal Show – Check our website for location and time.

May 8th – Mother’s Day. (Be sure to check with your Mom about that weekend.)

May 27-28-20-30 – Big Wedding Weekend – Memorial Day Weekend. If you are thinking about one of those dates, you need to get your contracts signed NOW. Photographers and favorite venues may already be booked. Vendors know that they can book these dates – so don’t look for price deals.

June 19th – Father’s Day.

 

JULY, AUGUST, SEPTEMBER

July 2-3-4 – (Saturday, Sunday, Monday) This could be a busy time for many places so get your reservations in early. If you have folks who need to travel this could be an ideal time for them to come. It’s generally HOT so consider an indoor wedding.

August 21st – It’s Bride St. Louis’ SUMMER Bridal Show – Check our website for location and time.

(July and August can be very hot in St. Louis. It is best to plan for an “indoor” ceremony/venue.

September 3-4-5 – Labor Day Weekend. Book quickly if you want this date. Good again for those with out-of-town guests.

Sept. 12th – It’s our SUMMER Bridal Show in Columbia, MO. – Check our website for location and time.

September 23rd – Autumn Equinox (Friday)

September 26 – Monday – Rosh Hashana

September & October Weekends

Extremely popular in the St. Louis area.

Great time for those Wine Vineyard Weddings.

Ties with June as the most popular month. Book EARLY for weekends in these months.

 

Winter Bride - BrideSTLouis.comOctober, November, December

October 8-9-10 – Columbus Day Weekend. Another good long weekend.

October 31st – Monday – Halloween.

Nov. 6th –  Cake & Champagne Bridal Show (Check Details on our Website) – Daylight Savings Ends

November 11th – Veterans Day (Friday) – Many in the military choose this day.

November 24-25-26-27 – Thanksgiving Weekend. These dates book fast.

December 18 – Sunday – Hanukkah begins

December 21 – December Solstice (Wednesday)

December 23-24-25-26th – Christmas Holiday Weekends (Fri., Sat., Sun, Monday)

December 31st – January 1st, 2022 – End the year married! (Saturday & Sunday)

 

Also, be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (Passover, Rosh Hashanah, Hanukkah, Yom Kippur, Christmas, and Kwanzaa) when planning your wedding. There may be restrictions at your house of worship.

And if your family is deeply involved in sports – avoid weekends with the Super Bowl, Final Four March Madness, and perhaps some local college games as well.

And finally, for number “13” fans – you have (on weekends): February 13th (Sunday), March 13th (Sunday), May 13th (Friday), August 13th (Saturday), and November 13th (Sunday).

 

 

 

 

The 2021-2022 Bride St. Louis Calendar of Bridal Shows and Wedding Expos

Fall Wedding Colors – What’s HOT for 2021

Fall 2021 Hot Wedding Colors

FALL WEDDINGS for 2021 – Hot Color Choices

As Fall approaches, it’s a good time to start planning your 2022 Fall Weddings.  Take a look at the colors of autumn and consider some of the perfect fall color palette options that will reflect the season for you.

Cream, Red Crimson, Golden Amber:

This is a classic color combination that versatile enough for a traditional or country affair.  Splashes of deep red crimson are gorgeous in bouquets and boutonnieres.

 

Eggplant, Sage, and Gold

The deep color of eggplant makes a stunning statement in fall.  Mix that with greens and metallic gold for a wonderful combination of color and excitement.

 

Terracotta, Beige and Chocolate Brown

Terracotta is HOT in weddings and is such a flattering color.  Pair these with other earthy tones to add a bit of depth.