Are you considering a First Look?

Bride St. Louis Wedding Planning - First Look

A “First Look” is the term used when a bride and groom decide to see each other before the wedding ceremony.  Many couples go back and forth on this decision.  While, a traditional bride might prefer to have her groom enjoy the first sight of her as she walks down the aisle, there are many benefits to having a first look.  Here are 8 reasons to have a “First Look.”

  1. Wedding days should be full of emotion and should not be stressful.  A first look can add so much beautiful emotion and happiness to your day.
  2. If you are Jewish you must see the groom before the wedding to sign the wedding contract.
  3. A First Look helps eliminate those “I think I’m going crazy” nerves that you often feel before the wedding.  Seeing your honey and sharing that time can provide instant relaxation and assurance that everything will be just fine.  While some fitters and nerves come back when you are about to walk down the aisle, it’s different.
  4. Photographers enjoy doing photos before the ceremony as there is less stress and more time to be creative.
  5. Many guys lock up when you come down the aisle.  They feel “on stage” and you often won’t get an honest response out of him.  He’s nervous too!  When he can see you before, he can take it all in, respond to how beautiful you are, laugh with you, cry with you, and most importantly…TALK TO YOU!
  6. When you choose to see each other before the ceremony you have time to touch-up makeup, are able to say things to one another and you are actually able to enjoy your time together before the ceremony.  While there are tears, you can take time to re-compose before your walk down the aisle.
  7. Many times the reception and the ceremony are very close together in time scheduled to eliminate a long wait time for your guests.  However, that means that once the “formal photos” are done, there is usually not enough time to do the really great candid shots.
  8. TIME with your groom alone!  The day will be very busy!  Guests will be congratulating you, wanting to ask thousands of questions, and you will have no time with your groom until the end of the day.  The First Look gives the two of you some time together.

If you’re traditional, it’s okay to skip it.  Remember that you can always change your mind – even on the day of your wedding!  Some couples prefer that the first time they see each other to be when the bride walks down the aisle in church.  It can be an exciting and emotional time, and you can share that with your guests.  Plus, the photos after the ceremony capture you wearing your rings.

 

Tips for Attending our Bridal Shows

 

Show are a rite of passage for the newly engaged and is a wonderful way to meet the top local vendors.  They are fun, inspirational, and exciting, but at the same time can be a bit overwhelming.  Here are some basic tips to help you make the most of your day:

  • Have fun and plan to make a day of it. There are many exhibitors, and you want to make sure that you have time to speak with everyone you need to.
  • One of the best things about a bridal show is that it gives you an opportunity to see what’s new and exciting, things you may not have thought of or considered.
  • Bring preprinted self-adhesive address labels with the following information: your name, address, phone number, email (create a new email address that can be deleted after you wedding) and wedding date. This will save you time and allow you to sign up for drawings or anything you want very quickly.
  • Wear comfortable shoes . . . you will be doing a lot of walking around and standing when speaking to all the exhibitors.
  • Bring along your fiance, a friend and/or family member. It is good to have someone to share the experience with and to offer a second opinion.
  • Many exhibitors offer show specials, so take advantage of them! Be prepared to book with the wedding professionals or schedule an appointment./
  • Enjoy it! Bridal shows/wedding expos are fun! Remember, if you don’t get it all done that day, check our website for another show in your area soon!

 

Come and spend an afternoon with us!  It’s weddings, weddings, everything weddings.

Wedding Gown Shopping? 13+ Tips for Stress Free Wedding Gown Shopping

13+ Tipd for Stress Free Wedding Gown Shopping

13+ Tips for Stress Free Wedding Gown Shopping!

  1. Create a budget.   Most brides will spend about 10% of their wedding budget for their dress.
  2. Start shopping early.  It takes anywhere from six to twelve months from the time you place the order to when you bring your wedding gown home.  Bridal designers need four or five months to make it, and then you need to schedule fittings.
  3. Know what kind of dress you want. Love satin, hate lace…let your stylist know what you love and what you hate.
  4. What kind of wedding are you having? Destination wedding, outdoors, grand ballroom, barn/country….this decision will play some kind of role in selecting the right dress for the mood of your wedding.
  5. Most bridal shops prefer appointments, but most are happy to work with walk-ins too. Saturdays can be crazy busy, so why not try a weekday appointment for a more private and relaxing experience.
  6. Bring one or two people whose opinion means the most to you. The reality bridal TV shows show brides bringing a huge group of family and friends – and that just add drama and indecision to the process.
  7. Get ready for your appointment and bring items you want to wear down the aisle. Wear a strapless nude bra and a seamless thong or brief.
  8. Some dresses look better on you than on the rack. Let the stylist help choose a style which will flatter your body.  Keep an open mind.  Try different silhouettes to see which one makes you feel stunning.
  9. Forget about “sizes” in the wedding gown industry. Every designer’s size charts are different.  Taking in a gown is easy; letting it out is difficult.
  10. For most shops, a 50% deposit is required when you order.
  11. Don’t be afraid to say “yes” to the dress on your first attempt. When you know, you just know.  If you feel exceptional in that dress, it’s your dress.
  12. Move around – sit – dance a bit. You want to be comfortable.
  13. Gowns are made to order, so minor details can be customized or switched. You can add a belt to add some sizzle, or add some colored tulle underneath to add contrast.  Straps can be added or you might want to order a small jacket or fur for those cooler months.

And a few extra tips –

Fit is everything, which is why, when it comes to your wedding dress, alterations are everything. You can splurge on a pricey dress, but if it’s not altered properly it won’t look any better than a gown that’s a tenth of the cost.

Budget for Alterations:  Bridal Alterations can add up.  Some shops charge per service ($200 to shorten your gown, $150 to resew seams, etc.) while others charge a flat fee that covers anything you’ll need to make the dress fit you perfectly.  Design changes can cost anywhere from $50, to cut a sweetheart neckline, to hundreds of dollars.

Don’t Buy a Gown to Small:  Never buy a too-small dress, thinking you will lose the weight.  It’s easier to take in a larger dress, than to let a smaller one out.

Wear your Wedding Shoes:  A seamstress will adjust the hem based on the shoes you’ll be wearing at the wedding.  If you haven’t picked out your wedding shoes yet, bring a pair with a comparable height.  Your hemline should gently graze the ground, so that you don’t trip.

So, where are you buying your dress?  Be sure to choose a reliable, bridal store that cares about helping you be your very best on your special day.  There are some disreputable stores, that have poor service after the sale.  Even some of the larger chains have bad reputations.  There are both good and bad online bridal stores – and once you purchase your dress, it’s yours.  Use care when going that route as well.

Be a beautiful, happy bride in the dress you love!

8 Things to Do Right After Getting Engaged

8 Things to Do Right After Getting Engaged - BrideStLouis.com

 

Congratulations on your engagement!  This is such an exciting time in your life.   So – just how do you start to plan a wedding?  Where do you start?

 

First – Celebrate the Engagement!

Take a moment to relax and truly enjoy the feeling of being engaged.  It’s a moment worth celebrating and you deserve to relish every minute of it.

 

Make Announcements

Tell your family and closest loved ones first.  They should learn about the good news before you post on social media.

 

Insure Your Ring

This is really important.  If something should happen to your ring, this insurance will give you some peace of mind and save you from a budget busting situation.

Engagement Ring - Bride St. Louis.com

Throw an Engagement Party

This doesn’t have to be something big – just a few of your closest friends.  After all, we are still limited due to the pandemic.

 

Start choosing a time frame for your wedding.

You will be asked over and over, “When’s the wedding?”   Give yourself enough time to plan the details and not stress over limited time to make decisions.  Check out our 2021 Wedding Date Guideline HERE.

 

Discuss with your future spouse – the kind of wedding you prefer.

Do you want an outdoor wedding, a destination wedding, something small and intimate?  What’s your style – casual or formal?  Do you want to dance the night away with a big band in a grand ballroom.  Bear in mind, you might each have different ideas.  Wedding planning is a good time for couples to really see how well they work together.  If your ideas are different – can you agree on something both of you will love?

 

BUY Tickets now for our Premier Wedding Expo on January 9th and January 10th.  Sign up for some of the seminars.  I recommend Wedding Planning 101 if you are totally new to being a bride – this seminar will guide you through the entire process.  (If you don’t attend this seminar, sign up online for our FREE E-BOOK on Wedding Planning available at our home page on our website, BrideSTLouis.com.)

The St. Louis Wedding Expo 2021 by Bride St. Louis

 

Create a Timeline and a Schedule.     The Venue should be selected first, as it sets the date and tone of the entire wedding.  From there create a schedule of activities leading up to your wedding date, spreading out tasks in manageable segments.

 

And One More Idea: Snap Photos.

Keep photos on your smart phone – dresses you like, flowers, and any other details that inspire you.

Use Camera of Phone of Favorite Images - BrideStLouis.com

 

Planning a wedding is easy if you stick to your plan and your schedule.   Have a fantastic wedding!

2021 Wedding Trends Report

2021 Wedding Trends Mg

Planning Those 2021 Weddings – Dates to Consider

 

As the Holidays approach, many of you may be anticipating the joy of being engaged.   It’s an excitement like no other, but it can also be overwhelming, thinking about how to plan the wedding of your dreams.

One of the first questions you will be asked is, “Have you set a date?”  The date you choose is key to your entire event.  If you are on a tight budget there are some dates you will want to avoid and if you choose a date around a Holiday, you might find your favorite vendor already booked.  To save money, go for a Friday or Sunday wedding as many vendors will offer a reduced price on those days.   We also listed the 3-day weekends – these are great for guests who need to travel.   In our area, October is a very busy wedding month.  If fact, it ranks up with June as one of the most popular wedding months.

PLANNING THOSE 2021 WEDDINGS – DATES TO CONSIDER

January 1st – It’s a Friday this year.  (Some of you might want to opt for a 12/31/20 end of year wedding.  And besides it will save money on taxes if you file as “Married”).  Many companies will be celebrating a 4-day weekend, so this could be a great time to say those “vows” especially if you have out of town guests invited.

January 2nd – As easy date to remember!  What I call a Novelty Date. 1-2-2121 (Saturday)

January 9th & 10th – Okay – it’s not a unique wedding date, but it is an important date to mark on your calendar.  It’s our HUGE, 2 DAY BRIDAL EXPO.  This is your opportunity to plan your entire wedding in one weekend.  Look for more information on our web site at BrideStLouis.com.  Buy your tickets early so you don’t miss out on some of the great, FREE, seminars that occur at this event.

January 18th It’s a Monday.  A 3-day weekend for many to celebrate Martin Luther King’s Day.

January 24th Our Second Bridal Show of the Year at The Christy Banquet Center in O’Fallon, MO.

February 7th Super Bowl – If your guy is a sports fan – forget about this date!

February 12th – Lincoln’s Day is a State Holiday in Illinois.  It’s a Friday.  (Could be a 3 Day Weekend for some.)

February 14thValentine’s Day (Sunday).  Florists will be super busy, and you might pay more for those red roses.

February 15thPresident’s Day (Monday)

February 16th – Marti Gras (Tuesday)

February 17th – Ash Wednesday (Catholics usually don’t marry in Lent.)

February 28th – BrideStLouis’ Bridal Show at the Foundry Art Center in St. Charles

March 14th – Daylight savings time begins.  (Longer Days)

March 17th – For You Irish Lads. (It’s a Wednesday. Wear those kilts!)

March 20th – First Day of Spring – Vernal equinox. (Saturday)

March 21st – Another Novelty Date (Sunday)  3/21/2121

March 27th to April 4th – Passover

April 2nd – Good Friday

April 4th – Easter Sunday.  Most couples avoid that date.  Many churches will not perform weddings the Saturday before Easter – April 3rd)

April 11th – Bride St. Louis’s Bridal Show at Moolah Shrine.

May 9th – Mother’s Day.  (Be sure to check with your Mom’s about that weekend.)

May 28-29-30-31 – Big Wedding Weekend – Memorial Day Weekend.  If you are thinking about one of those dates, you need to get your contracts signed NOW.  Photographers and favorite venues may already be booked.  Vendors know that they can book these dates – so don’t look for price deals.

June 20th – Father’s Day.

July 3-4-5 – (Saturday, Sunday, Monday) This could be a busy time for many places so get your reservations in early.  If you have folks who need to travel this could be an ideal time for them to come.  It’s generally HOT so consider an indoor wedding.

(July and August can be very hot in St. Louis.  It is best to plan for an “indoor” ceremony/venue.)

August 15th – Bride St. Louis Bridal Show at Water’s Edge Banquet Center in St. Peters.

September 4-5-6  – Labor Day Weekend.  Book quickly if you want this date.  Good again for those with out-of-town guests.

September 6 – 8  – Rosh Hashana Begins (Monday-Wednesday)

September & October Weekends

Extremely popular in the St. Louis area.

Great time for those Wine Vineyard Weddings.

Ties with June as the most popular month.  Book EARLY for weekends in these months.

October 9-10-11 – Columbus Day Weekend.  Another good long weekend.

October 31st  – Sunday.  Halloween.

Nov. 7th – Daylight Savings Ends

November 11th – Veterans Day  (Thursday)

Many in the military choose this day.

November 21st – Novelty Date Again (Sunday) 11-21-2121 (All 1s and 2s)

November 25-26-27-28 – Thanksgiving Weekend. These dates book fast.

November 28 – December 6 – Hanukkah

December 25th – Christmas (Saturday)

December 31st – January 1st, 2022 – End the year married!  (Friday & Saturday)

 

Also, be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (Passover, Rosh Hashanah, Hanukkah, Yom Kippur, Christmas, and Kwanzaa) when planning your wedding.  There may be restrictions at your house of worship.

And if your family is deeply involved in sports – avoid weekends with the Super Bowl, Final Four March Madness, and perhaps some local college games as well.

And finally, for number “13” fans – you have (on weekends):  February 13th (Saturday), March 13th (Saturday), June 13th (Sunday), August 13th (Friday), and November 13th (Saturday).   This is for Friday, Saturday or Sunday events as noted.