If you want to live together “happily ever after” there are a few things you should know about each other before you tie the knot.
Who You Are
Know who you are and what you want from life before getting married. If you want to focus on a career, have kids, travel a lot….be sure to talk about these things prior to getting married. You don’t have to agree on everything. You just need to understand what each of you want and expect in a marriage.
Know that you can’t change him (her)
The truth is what you see is what you get. People will change, but only if THEY want to.
What’s his (hers) financial status?
Sharing space has its own challenges. Sharing expenses can lead to hurt feelings and bad relationships. Be sure to discuss together how you plan to handle finances together. This is where total honesty is important. Don’t hide your credit problems from each other. Additionally you will want to have a clear picture of what each person desires – a nice home, a new car, etc. Are you a saver? Does he spend like crazy? Be sure to acknowledge your partner’s goals and bad habits when it comes to making and spending money.
Knowing your partner’s priorities can help eliminate squabbles after you are married and lead to a long term, loving, and caring for each other relationship. Having someone to cuddle up and knowing there’s someone who loves you no matter what is what marriage is all about.