Friends, Family & Your Wedding

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We all have friends and relatives who are offering to help with your wedding as their gift to you.  There are several areas where a donation of someone’s expertise or talents would not only save you money but would add a meaningful, personal touch to your big day.  Here are some etiquette tips regarding accepting your loved ones’ offer to help:

1.) Be sure they are qualified to do the job well.  If you are not quite sure they can measure up to the job, thank them, and tell them you already have someone helping with that task.

2.) If someone offers to help, tell them you would be happy to accept their services as a wedding gift.

3.) Tell them how much it means to you to have them contributing to make your day special.

4.) Always send a written thank you after the wedding.

The best parts of any wedding celebration are the personal touches added by the bride and groom such as creating and saying your own vows, your decorations and theme, personal photos, and other special items.  Always add your personality and passions to your wedding.

Hermann Hill – Venue Review

One of the most delightful locations not too far from St. Louis is Hermann Hill.  It started as just a Bed & Breakfast, but soon grew into a wonderful wedding venue.  It is situation on a hill and overlooks the Missouri river.  They have a beautiful chapel, large open-window reception room, great dressing rooms, a gazebo overlooking the river, and they just recently added a Peace Chapel and Fire Pit.  If you are having out-of-town guests, they have cottages right on the facility that are modern and luxurious.

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But what I like most about this particular venue is their attention to service to their guests.  And, of course, their food is excellent.

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Hermann is about one hour west outside of the St. Louis area.  They offer various pricing packages good for elopements or larger weddings, as their reception area can accommodate up to 300 people.  Every wedding is personally attended to by your own Personal Wedding Coordinator, and when you add up all the extras they include, it’s a great deal.  They will help coordinate ordering a wedding cake, recommending great photographers who are familiar with their facility, and will suggest various musicians and florists to make planning your wedding easy.

Fire Pit overlooking Missouri River

If you would like more information contact Jill Winkelmann at 314-550-4759 or email her at weddings@hermannhill.com.  Tell her you heard about Hermann Hill at BrideStLouis.com.

 

Resolutions and Realizations Regarding Your Wedding

The New Year is here and like most people, I have no idea where 2013 has gone.  Because New Year’s Resolutions can be daunting, I’ve consciously decided to be more realistic about expectations.  I might make a list, but I no longer feel that I have failed, if circumstances keep me from completing my goals.  This year list will include some specific items toward improving my health, my happiness, and most of all, having fun and enjoying life.  Rather than state, I will lose those 20 extra pounds, I basically resolve to eat healthier and exercise more.  So, at the end of the year, even if I haven’t lost those 20 pounds, but did eat healthier and exercise more, I’ve succeeded.

Wedding Couple at Altar BSL

The same non-specific goal might be a good resolution for your wedding.  In my ancient times when I was single, I dreamed that my wedding would be so grand, and so wonderful – unlike any other wedding – elegant, fabulous and everyone would be exclaiming over and over how beautiful our wedding was.  That was not reality.  Other brides that I have met during this last year, who have planned their wedding, down to the tiniest detail, and then, even on the day of the wedding, failed to let go of that need “to control all things the day of the wedding” failed in their realization of what a wedding should be.  A wedding is not about the perfect dress, the exact color of the flowers, or how precisely executed the wedding was.  It’s about BEING HAPPY AND HAVING A WONDERFUL TIME on the most important day of your life, the day that you marry the one you love.   So, yes, let’s have a great time this year putting together your wedding, and when it’s time for the wedding, let all expectations fly away, and just truly enjoy the day.

Drop us a line and share with us your goals, ambitions and resolutions regarding your wedding and marriage?

Almost the End of the Road for 2013

Yes, we have reached the end of the road for 2013.   So it’s a good time to look back and review some of the blog posts that were your favorites.  These are the top ten with links back to their respective articles.

We always love hearing from you, so be sure to let us know how we can better help you.   We have lots of great things planned for 2014 including another “Engaged! For Sweethearts”  workshop on February 16, 2014.  So register now at the “Bridal Show” tab of our web site (www.BrideSTLouis.com) – and don’t forget, there is FREE registration until 1/2/14 if you send us a photo of your engagement ring.  Send your photo to Bride@BrideStLouis.com.  Enjoy this review.

 

Top Ten Lists of Do’s and Don’ts for Your 2013 Wedding

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Tie the Knot for Less

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Outside Caterers – Local Venues Where You Can Bring Your Own Caterer

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Let’s Celebrate Spring  (A Bridal Bouquet Spectacular -(This was a multi-part blog featuring over 70 beautiful bridal bouquets of all colors, sizes, and shapes.)

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12 Tips to Get the Most from Your Wedding Photos

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Planning to be a DIY Bride?

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Insights from Wedding Planners & How They Do Business (This is a three part series that goes into depth about the services that a wedding planner provides.

Rachel McCalla from Lucky You Productions assists in preparations of the day.

Rachel McCalla from Lucky You Productions assists in preparations of the day.

 

The Wedding Cake  (This is a multi-part blog with over 100 beautiful cakes for your review.)

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Questions to Ask When Looking for a Wedding Venue

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Do You Know How Much to Budget for Flowers?   (This is a two part post.)

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2013 Top Ten List of Do’s and Don’ts for the Bride

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After many, many weddings where I’ve see all sorts of things from brides hyperventilating over the “wrong” shade of purple in the flowers, dresses with no top hooks, shoes missing, and groomsmen drunk before the wedding begins, I decided to list a few things that will help keep you sane.  There are any number of things that can gone wrong, and they will  – but  if you follow these rules, you can manage most anything that comes your way.

Rule #1 Remember the Budget.  You cannot indulge every whim.  Yes, it’s your day, but maintaining your perspective on the entire wedding and what’s important will help you say “No” to those hand engraved invitations that are to die for, but three times the budget.  There is a world of amazing options available and if you find yourself tempted by jaw dropping expenses, remember Rule #1.  Your budget was set keeping in mind what’s important to you.  It might have been great photography or a fabulous honeymoon.  Splurge on the important things.  Will those other expensive obsessions add to what’s important?   Do not impulse buy.  A beautiful event can be created without being expensive.

Rule #2 – Don’t have unrealistic weight expectations.  He loves you.  He loves you because you are you.   He has proposed.  Crash dieting will make you exhausted, irritable and cranky.  Enjoy the wedding planning.  The wedding is a process…so make the planning fun and a memorable part of the event.  Don’t ruin the experience with a poor attitude.

Rule #3 – Keep the Guest List in check.  This is your celebration.  Invite only friends and family who you want to share this day with.  Besides adding significant expense, do you really want to celebrate the most important event of your life with people you’ll never see again?

Rule #4 – Don’t Micro Manage Every Detail.  One of the many areas where many brides go crazy is the bridal registry.  They start second guessing every decision and then on-line options allow you to review and revise.  And other things like Seating Charts.  Brides are constantly revising these charts.  These are just two examples of details that can overwhelm you.  Make a decision and move forward.

Rule #5 – Take a day off from all wedding planning.  Just enjoy the moment of the two of you being together.  Do something fun…but non wedding related.  Do this ever so often and don’t let the stress of wedding planning ruining the intimacy you share.

Rule #6 – On Your Wedding Day share Personal Time for Just the Two of You.  You will be celebrating with family and friends all day.  Take 20 to 30 minutes between the ceremony and the reception and share some one on one time.   You are now Mr.  & Mrs. and you need to be able to share your feelings and excitement together – alone.

Rule #7 – Go with the Flow.  Your photos will reflect the story of your day.  Choose a photographer that will capture your story in a natural, unobtrusive manner.  You’ll want to remember the memory, not the photographer poising you and saying, “Now embrace and pretend to kiss”.    Rule #10 says to “Enjoy & Have Fun at your wedding, so hire a photographer that is like a fly-on-the wall, and go party.

Rule #8 – Ask for help.  You have bridesmaids and groomsmen are there to help you.  If you need something, don’t hesitate to ask.  That’s part of their job.  Communicate your needs and trust them to handle the job.

Rule #9 – Expect the Unexpected.  Acknowledge that weddings can’t be scripted and run entirely as planned.   Things will go wrong.  Do you become a foot stomping bridezilla or do you  acknowledge that your main goal is to have a wonderful time where love, friendship, and fun are the emotions of the day.  No one will remember that the “purple” flowers were not dark enough.  What they will remember is how much fun they had sharing your celebration.

Rule 10 – Enjoy & Have Fun at your Wedding.