How to Care for Your Engagement Ring, Wedding Bands and other Wedding Jewelry


Congratulations to all your newly engaged brides-to-be.  We thought this would be an excellent time to share with you some tips on how to care for that newly acquire ring.  Wedding rings will last a lifetime, and maybe longer if you pass it down to future generations, so extend the shine and sparkle and keep your stones safely in their settings.

  1. Clean your wedding jewelry at home with warm water and a baby soft tooth brush. Stay away from sinks and drains.  Lotions, powders, soaps – even the natural oils from you skin will create a film and reduce their brilliance.   You can use a small bowl of warm suds containing a mild household liquid detergent, but don’t use any cleaners containing chlorine.  Be sure to rinse and avoid touching the diamond with your fingers.  There are also ultrasonic cleaners available that you may purchase, and there are some liquid jewelry cleaners that you can buy as well.
  2. Store your rings in a separate soft compartment, fabric lined case or box with dividers to avoid scratches. Be careful when using ring holders or jewelry dishes as these tend to stack rings on top of each other which can cause damage.
  3. Avoid wearing your diamonds while doing housework, yard work or other kind of rough work. Even though a diamond is extremely durable, a hard blow could chip it.
  4. Insure them! Get comprehensive coverage against loss, theft, damage and mysterious disappearance.
  5. Once a year take your engagement ring and wedding bands to a jeweler for inspection and cleaning. They will check for loose settings, any worn prongs and other potential problems.  However if you see a loose stone or prong between your annual checkup, immediately take your piece to the jeweler.


Who Keeps The Engagement Ring if the Wedding is Canceled?




You have found your lifelong mate and you’re ready to get married. Congratulations! It’s an exciting time in your life.

Unfortunately, things don’t go as planned for everyone for one reason or another and if you find that the wedding is canceled, who keeps the ring? Some courts consider the ring as a “gift” and once given, it can’t be taken back. If you gave a sweater to someone, you can’t come back a year later and take it back. It’s a gift and once given – done. Other courts look at the circumstance of when a ring is given. If your fiancé gave you the ring as a Christmas, Valentine’s Day or birthday present, the court may call it a gift and let you keep it.

Some courts consider the engagement ring as a “conditional” gift. The ring is given with the expectation that a marriage will happen in the future. If the wedding doesn’t happen, the gift “fails” and some courts say the giver has the right to take back the gift. The ring is symbolic as a pledge and if the pledge is broken, she must return the ring.

This is no uniform law in the United States and it is just something you should be knowledgeable about.   In Missouri I have been told that the Missouri courts consider an engagement ring as a conditional gift in contemplation of marriage and that it is not a completed gift unless the parties get married. So, if there is no marriage, the guy is entitled to the ring back. However, in Missouri there is also another little caveat that says if the donor is responsible for the break up, the gal gets to keep the ring since she was not responsible for the failure to get married.

In reality, do most guys even want the ring back? Does a woman want to keep the ring? What is your thoughts on this matter?

Note:  This article is not intended to be legal advice and it is intended for informational purposes only.   Please consult an attorney if this situation is one that you face.


How much do you know about that diamond in your ring?

Lots of ladies are flashing some beautiful diamonds, as this period of time– from Thanksgiving to Valentine’s Day — brings out the nesting urge in guys.  Diamonds are made from the mineral carbon – and yes that’s the same mineral that you find in pencils.  However, when the carbon is placed under high extreme pressure and temperature, the diamond is created.

When you go to purchase a diamond, keep in mind the four C’s – Cut, Color, Clarity and Carat (or weight).  All those factors determine the value of your particular diamond.












Cut refers to the shape of the diamond.  The traditional “round cut” is the most well known diamond shape.  That cut is also known by the name “brilliant” as that cut reflects the whitest light back to your eye.  There are other shapes which you might have heard of including Marquise, Oval, Pear Shape, and Princess Cut.

Color is based on a letter scale starting at D and progressing through Z.  D is considered completely colorless, and as you progress to Z, there is more yellow to the stone.  And, unfortunately, as the color moves up the alphabet, the value declines.  There are exceptions.  A “Z” color stone, whereby the diamond clearly appears yellow, is now considered “Fancy Yellow” and is a current trend.  And, finally, there are other diamonds in other colors like pink and blue and they are very valuable  – thus, very expensive.

Clarity refers to how many imperfections there are in the stone.  The F scale is Flawless – and that’s the top of the scale.   Other  scales range from IF (internally flawless) down to  I1,I2, I3.  Most will fall somewhere between these two scales.

The last consideration is Carat Weight and that is the measuring scale by which diamonds are weighed.   In a 1.00 carat diamond there are 100 points, a .75 carat diamond would have 75 points, etc.

These are all good facts to keep in mind, when shopping for your wedding set.  Now you can shop with confidence.  And if some of you ladies are still waiting for your ring, give your guy this post.  (Hint, Hint!)