How to Dress Your Man – Choosing the Right Apparel for the Groom

It’s time to make your guy shine.  After all, without him there is no wedding.   And guys love to look good too!  Choosing the right attire needs to be a combination of individual taste, the style of the wedding, and also what the groom likes.  If you have ever looked at your parent’s wedding album (think 50’s through the 80’s) you will see either the “classic” suit/tuxedo OR sometimes those crazy leisure suits, big hair, and bell bottoms!  While certain trends come and go, if you stick to a “classic, timeless” look you will never go wrong.

Putting on a shirt BSL

A suit in a dark charcoal or dark blue, either double or single breasted, is perfectly fine.  A three piece suit is a great alternative for a wedding that’s a bit more formal, yet gives a more modern and fresh look.  Avoid black because black can make some complexions look drab and pale.   Those in the fashion industry advise against white because it competes with the bride’s dress.  It this is a summer wedding at an exotic location light tan and khaki will work.  Dress shirts in white or very pale shades work well along with either a tie or bowtie.  One of the most important things is to make sure the shirt fits, especially around the collar.  You will be takings lots and lots of photos on the day of your wedding, and a too big or too tight collar will look terrible.  No busy patterns in the shirt or the tie.   And girls, it’s okay to let your guy choose a fun “fashion statement” pair of socks.

Orange Socks BSL

The classic black tuxedo complete with satin-striped trousers and bow tie should be worn to evening weddings only.   There is more to shopping for a tuxedo then most guys know.  Details – what style of collar for the shirt – wing, banded or lay down?  What type of lapels – notch, peak or shawl?   If you are having an ultra-formal daytime wedding you could consider the black or gray cutaway jacket with gray striped pants, gloves, vest, and ascot or cravat.

In all cases, the groom’s attire should complement the formality and style of the bride’s dress.

How well do you know your groom?

The strange thing about a couple planning their wedding is that most brides have been planning their wedding since early childhood, whereas the groom starts thinking about the wedding, and the cost, just after the engagement.  Most brides think they know their guy pretty well, but here are some things that you might not realize.

Groom getting ready


  • Your groom is just as excited about getting married as you, but he is definitely more interested in being man and wife and not so much the process.  Guys just don’t talk about it.  Grooms are into the idea of a wedding.  Understand also that some guys think that the big fancy wedding is a waste of money, but they go along with it, because it is important to you.  It also creates a situation for them that they may feel inadequate if they can’t afford to provide the wedding of your dreams.  And some men feel really uncomfortable asking the father of the bride for his financial support.
  • Your groom is concerned about how he looks in his tux.  Do I button the jacket, do I leave it open?  Most guys just are really uncomfortable with the dress up part, and want to look the part that they feel they are expected to play.
  • Some grooms will be nervous about their appearance, especially their hair.
  • Families today are very complicated and not always on the best of terms, especially in situations of divorce.  Guys are super sensitive to the potential of family conflicts, and most of all if it is on their side of the family.  They don’t want to be embarrassed by hostile events that could occur.   In some situations this is the first time that the bride’s family will have meet the groom’s family, so he wants to put on a good face and he wants his family not to be a problem.
  • And grooms are entitled to their own time to “freak out”.   It will happen.  It might be over the silliest little thing like what the cost of the appetizers are going to be, or why you need to pay some amazing price for table linens, when you have already discussed this issue.   This behavior is normal and annoying, but stress will affect his demeanor as well.

Planning a marriage is a real test of communication between future partners.  So, how well do you know your future spouse?