Is Marriage a Luxury?

There is a very interesting article I recently read in Today Money (http://www.today.com/money/marriage-luxury-good-class-divide-who-gets-married-divorced-8C11457474?ocid=msnhp&pos=1) and I thought it would be good to discuss the highlights of their article and get some feedback from you, our St. Louis/St. Charles couples.

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This article points out that the demographics of who walks down the aisle has change in recent years, and that people with a college degree have become more likely to get – and stay – married than their less educated counterparts.  In days past, college educated women were the least likely to be married, as compared to those with a high school degree or below.  Women no longer necessarily marry to move up in their economic status as they tend to look for an equal who can provide financially because they feel it takes two earners to meet an expected standard of living.

What also has come to be is a rapid decline of marriage among people with just a high school degree.  Those with less education want to get married, but feel that they are not in a stable, financial point in their lives.

Bottom line – marriage might be considered a “luxury” and that the practice of living together without getting married defines your social status.

What do you think?   Are they wrong?

Planning to be a DIY Bride?

As many of you know, I really am all about making your day special and adding the personal touches that set your wedding apart.  It is amazing to see how creative our local brides are and the originality they display with taking a theme and really exploiting the idea.  Pinterest and hundreds of other websites show us how to create the perfect handmade wedding from decorations and invitations to favors, and some brides even tackle the cake.

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However, before you decide to venture in this direction I wanted to share some thought on how to ensure that your plans for DIY items don’t turn into a nightmare.

Thought Number One – It might NOT save you money.  If you are proceeding down this path thinking that by doing it yourself you can save money, that thought might not be true.   Before taking on a project, take a look at how much materials cost (including shipping) and compare that to items that you can buy ready made.   Some things are no brainers – like flower vases borrowed from family and friends or anything made from recycled materials.  Be sure you know what the real cost will be.

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Borrowed Anitique Pitchers

Thought Number Two – Do you have enough time to dedicate to this project?  It you incorrectly estimate that it will take 15 minutes to make one centerpiece, and it ends up that it actually takes an hour, do you have that time.  Perhaps starting the process earlier can eliminate the last minute stress and allow you to allocate that additional time needed over additional days.

Thought Number Three – Will it look good?  Is this something that you can really pull off and get the look that you want?  It’s always easier when we read about it, then when we actually do it.

Handmade Table Tickets

We’d love for you to share with us your DIY plans and what pitfalls you have encountered.

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Creating “WOW!” at your Wedding Reception

It’s time to talk about making your wedding reception something that family and friends will be talking about for years.  You don’t have to spend a fortune.  You just need to add some extra pizazz and show guests that you really appreciate them.  Let me explain what I am talking about.

After years and years of attending many weddings, I find the weddings that I remember are the weddings that surprise me.  And it’s the little things that make the biggest difference.  Here are a few examples.

Serve Pre-Ceremony Cocktails – Guests will not expect any drinks until the cocktail hour or reception and if it’s hot, like it has been here lately in St. Louis, why not serve light mimosas, iced teas, wine coolers or flavored waters as guests arrive for the ceremony.  Let your guests relax and sip a refreshing beverage – nothing strong.  Then, just prior to the ceremony, collect the stray glasses or bottles.  It’s a small thing with big rewards!

Serve Sparkling Grape Juice or Light Wine for a toast during the ceremony (where permitted) celebrating the new Mr. and Mrs. just after the kiss.

Child Care – Hire a babysitter and rent a small room, preferably close to the reception area, so that the youngest guests have a place to play, color, and have fun while the parents get to really enjoy themselves without the distraction of managing their children.  Provide child loving snacks, games or perhaps a portable DVD player with a movie or two to keep the kids entertained, and provide a blanket or two for kids to nap on the floor.   It’s such a low cost, thoughtful gesture.  I remember when I was a parent with a small child, this would have really meant a lot to me – to have an adult night, dancing, talking, and having fun without chasing the kids.

The After Party – A new trend that’s really taking off like hot cakes here in our area is the “after” reception party.  Invite your closest friends to a local bar, hang out, game place, or other fun location for an hour or so of relaxed socialization after the big party.  It’s a time where everyone kicks off their shoes, lets their hair down, rubs some sore feet, and just hangs out.  Serve some light snacks, pizza, or sliders with some local beer or other beverage.

After party fun

Other entertainment – One bride hired a bagpiper to make a grand entry into the reception to start the party!  Wow!  That’s was a lot of fun and everyone is still talking about that wedding!  You could add other musical additions – even performing a song or two if you are musically talented.  Play guitar?  Sing? Special Dances?

Musician Entertainment

 

Bagpiper

Okay, those are some ideas for today.  I could go on page after page.  Let’s hear from you.  Do you have something special planned?

A Brief Summary of Posts of 2013

Here is an overview of blogs posted from January thru August 2013.  Over the last 8 months we’ve talked a lot about wedding planning – in fact, 44 blog posts in all!   And coming in second in the list is budgeting.  Here’s a partial breakdown:

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  • Bridal Bouquets – 6
  • Budgeting  – 13
  • Catering  – 3
  • Do’s and Don’ts -2
  • Gifts & Favors  – 2
  • Important Dates 2013  – 2
  • Invitations  – 3
  • Marriage License – 2
  • Music and DJs – 2
  • Photography – 8
  • Tips – 7
  • Trends – 3
  • Wedding Cake – 5
  • Wedding Planning – 44

In total there are over 108 posts that cover just about every topic you can name with regard to getting married.   So, this is a good time to ask you, our brides, to give us feedback on how were are doing, what you would like to know more about, and any other general comments you wish to share.  We value your opinions.

And don’t forget to register for our educational workshop Engaged! – A Bridal Workshop to be held on Sunday, October 13, 2013.  It’s FREE!!!  Seven guest speakers will talk briefly about wedding planning, over 40 participating vendors, free Food Tasting, Cake Tasting, and lots of goodies.  More information can be found on the Home page of our site at www.BrideStLouis.com.

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Have a safe and fun Holiday Weekend.

Time for Some Fun!

Time for some fun!  How well do you know your wedding trivia?  Send us your answers and the first person to answer all questions correctly will receive a $25.00 gift certificate from Wine Town Designs.  Answers will be posted in a few days.  Send your responses to bride@bridestlouis.comGood Luck.

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1. Where does the tradition of the wedding cake come from?
A.  From ancient Rome, where revelers broke a loaf of bread over a bride’s head for fertility’s sake.
B. From Germany because something sweet will make for a happy marriage.
C. No one knows.
D. There are several theories – but most people believe it was a tradition that started with Queen Victoria.
2. Saturday is the unluckiest wedding day according to English folklore.  True or False
3. In the United States what percentage of brides does not take the groom’s last name?
A.  5%
B. 10%
C. 30%
D. 50%
4. Queen Elizabeth II had 12 wedding cakes.  The one she cut at her wedding was nine feet tall and weighed 500 pounds.  True or False?
5. We all lead busy lives.  It has been said that the average married couple spends how much time alone together each day?
A.  1 Hour
B.  2 Hours
C. 30 Minutes
D. 4 Minutes
6. Men in love show more activity in the visual part of the brain, while women in love show more activity in the part of the brain that governs memory.  True or False.
7. Kissing burns how many calories a minute?
A. 6.4 Calories
B. 20 Calories
C. Undetermined
D. It varies
8. A marriage in which a woman is two or more years older than her husband is 75% likely to end in divorce.  True or False.
9. Why is a marriage ceremony typically ended with a kiss?
A. Because the couple wants to show everyone how much they care for each other.
B. It’s just the thing to do.
C. In ancient Rome, a kiss was a legal bond that sealed contracts, and marriage was seen as a contract.
D. The kiss means the wedding couple will always have an intimate and faithful relationship.
10. The act of kissing releases masses of oxycotin, a “love portion” that helps couples bond.  Through bonding, each lover’s face becomes personally attractive to the other.  True or False.

Welcome

 

Welcome to the 100+ Brides who opted into our site at the Something New Bridal Fair.  We’re glad you’re here.  Please feel free to browse our past blogs for lots of good tips and information.  Give us a shout and let us know how we can best help you have the best wedding ever.Girl Happy